Gratitude

The MOTHER of all emotions. How to get from here to there.

Dear Beautiful Humans,

The attitude of gratitude.

I’ve been wanting to chat about this one for a while.

Because it can get c r u n c h y and sticky.

Anddd, I loveeee weeding out the facts from the fiction.

First: The facts.

Gratitude is one of the most elevated emotions of alllll the emotions you can experience.

(Yes, there are ranges of frequency to your state of being when experiencing an emotion and this frequency informs the way your body organizes and emits energy back out into the universe. Otherwise known as your signal.)

When you’re feeling gratitude you’re *also* in the ultimate state of receiving. Meaning the elevated feeling coursing through your vessel is sending a signal to the universe that you are completely open to receiving more of what you’re focused on and appreciating.

BUT/AND/ALSO: When you’re in a state of gratitude - or when you are thankful ( full of appreciation) - your immune system is raised and your stress hormones like cortisol are reduced.

You are quite literally (+biologically) actively healing/repairing cells and rapidly becoming healthier.

Holy wowowowow.

You’re not in fight or flight, freeze or fawn, you’re not worrying/scanning/being hypervigilant…you’re simply in the moment, accepting the moment and loving into the moment.

So gratitude is indeed a powerful one, for sure. It’s like the M O T H E R of emotions.

And, a fecking great high, if you ask me.

Now, let’s get to the c r u n c h y and sticky part:

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If experiencing gratitude puts you in a state of receptivity, i.e. getting what you desire pretty effortlessly and with yummy feelings of trust and safety, what the hell happens when you just.dont.feel.all.that.grateful? Or when you want more?

How do you authentically feel gratitude when you want more?

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Crunch. Crunch. Crunchyyyy.

First, let’s dispel the fiction:

That you need/should always be grateful for what you have.

“Just be happy for what you have. It’s enough. Be grateful.”

Well, you’re not a Pinterest post. Or the poster child of the Virgin Mary.

You’re a multi-dimensional, ever-evolving, messy, dark, brilliant, expansive human.

You’re kinky, your light and dark, you’re all of it. At once.

And….you can’t always abide by the laws.

Remember, we are a living practice. Ever moving/flowing/shapeshifting towards a new point of attraction.

So. You can’t just force yourself into gratitude - or worse pretend you’re grateful even when things aren’t quite the way you want them.

That’s called emotional bypassing. It’s no bueno and it does.not.work.

The reframe:

You can inch your way from one state of being to the next. Like rungs on a ladder.

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You can be grateful for the things you’re truly and honestly grateful for (your signal won’t/can’t lie) and you can *also* feel sad/disappointed/longing/frustrated for the things you’re desiring that just haven’t landed yet.

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Both can exist.

Cue relief….and permission to be human.

Because once you allow both to exist, you relax. You’re in acceptance.

A new rung on the ladder.

Only then will you be able to become the alchemist that you are.

To allow enough space - from the relaxation - to transform that energy into something else.

You can move from scarcity (I do not have) to beautiful anticipation (I desire this thing and actively await its presence in my life).

As in: I am loving what I can appreciate right now and I want more.

Another rung on the ladder.

And I can play with my desires from a place of curiosity and anticipation.

And another rung on the ladder.

I can feel into looking forward to it all happening.

And another rung on the ladder.

See how that journey is so much more fluid?

And son of a gun, somehow, through that alchemy, you become (verb: begin to be) grateful for the whole shebang of a process.

Try this. You’ll get good at practicing the process.

And it feels magical. Hence the high.

XX,

Stacy